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Relief isn't at the next milestone

After the Next One

A lot of the leaders I work with are living on a promise they keep making to themselves.

Once we ship this. Once I backfill the role. Once the funding arrives. Then it’ll ease up.

You’ve made that promise for three milestones now. Each one bought a few days of relief before the next rung showed up. The calm you’re working toward stays one step ahead.

A few questions to ponder:

  • What are you telling yourself will let up after the next milestone?
  • Have the last few actually changed the feeling, or just reset it?
  • What are you postponing until things settle, that settling was never going to deliver?

The reframe: You’ve been asking too much of the next milestone. The calm isn’t waiting there.

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